O-Zone: Men, Rein it in!!

Though I am no feminist, I still couldn't help myself sharing this lovely piece of article I happened to chance upon! Hope you all enjoy it reading AND learning from it!!!!!

ALL men are like that! A pet complaint voiced by women. A loud hint at a man's natural promiscuous instinct. Promiscuity indeed is wired into men's DNA. Their ancient, natural urge to multiply and populate the world never did abate even with present concerns of overpopulation!

Swarthy, sexy Krishna, He with the gopis hanging lustily around - wouldn't all men love to emulate Him! Go get it - whenever, wherever. No questions asked. And yet, when it comes to their wives, most men will not be satisfied with anyone less than a Sita. Pavitra, untouched by anyone but themselves, docile and ever willing to prove her innocence by jumping into the fire for them!

There's this incident Barbara Pease talks of, when this man went off for the Crusades after strapping his wife in a chastity belt. He leaves the key with his best friend with instructions that in case he doesn't return for four years, the friend should give the key to the wife, telling her she's free. He had been gone just half an hour when he heard thundering hooves behind him and looked back to see his friend arrive in a cloud of dust, panting, "You gave me the wrong key!"

However, though the playfulness and flirtations of Krishna are one thing, it's when this same behaviour is allowed to grow unfettered and undisciplined in men that it becomes dangerous. It's this basic instinct of a man that is responsible for most crimes and a lot of chaos around. Just consider some regrettable events that dominated media in last couple of weeks. They all boil down to a man's insatiable need for sex.

New York Governor Eliot Spitzer is brought down by a hooker Ashley Dupre, ruining his "straight" image. The man known once as Mr Clean, a respectable guy with a decent wife and three teenage daughters, was caught spending thousands of dollars on a call girl at a fancy Washington hotel on the eve of Valentine's Day. Why?

Just because the Guv, despite having everything, couldn't control his wayward testosterone's primal demands! What is it with men in power who just cannot restrain their urges even though they are well aware of the ignominy faced by their equally oversexed peers and predecessors?

I mean if what happened to Bill Clinton, who now sheepishly trails behind wife and Presidential hopeful Hillary, isn't lesson enough to all men in power never to let down their trousers in an unguarded moment, nothing ever will be! And women, with the power of this knowledge have shamelessly used it to their advantage down the ages - history's irresistible seductresses.

In recent times, remember Pamela Bordes, former Miss India and glamorous escort and mistress to several British notables in the 1980s? Or Christine Keeler of the Profumo Affair, named after Minister John Profumo ruined because of the scandal surrounding his involvement with a prostitute? Then take Scarlett Keeling, 15, who was drugged, raped and killed on the popular Anjuna Beach in Goa. Why?

Again because some man couldn't control his primal sexual urge to just take what he desired, with or without permission! Typically, there are attempts to divert attention from the real culprit and blame Scarlett herself or her upbringing by mother Fiona Mackeown, criticised for her hippie lifestyle and dependence on social security.

But the fact remains if it weren't for the overwhelming libido of one misguided, self-centred man, Scarlett would have still been alive. The conviction of former IPS officer R K Sharma in the Shivani Bhatnagar case last week is another case of a man giving in to his sexual weakness, and having taken his fill, attempting to withdraw. By that time, the woman who is totally emotionally involved, finds it difficult to let go and that's what resulted in the scenario that ended with Shivani's life in this case.

More than 90 per cent crimes of passion and sexually deviant behaviour are committed by men. And when women have been accused of such behaviour, they have been tested to have an excess of male hormones in them. Normally, sex for a woman is relevant only after she is emotionally involved with a man; not so for a man.

They say a woman needs a reason for sex; a man just needs a place! However having said this, it would be unfair to throw away the baby with the dirty water on the basis of the behaviour of a few irresponsible men. Civilisation and generations of conditioning have ensured that men are for the most part able to curb their irresponsible testosterone. Well, just about almost...